…You should know that before reading this post. In it, I am going to acknowledge the existence of sex and… other words…
So… I read this today on Huffington Post. It’s about a reddit group “NoFap” (Fapping is masturbating), a collection of (and I just saw this – it’s significant) no less than 74,000 “fapstronauts.” These are *mostly* men, 89% of whom are under the age of 30 who have taken a pledge not to “fap” for a variety of reasons not the least of which is to improve their sex life. Read the article, there are alot of amazing stats.
Item I find MOST fascinating? Zero talk of religion.
This is not a religious movement. It’s a personal health one.
When I was in Bible College (I now own that I am a graduate of Pensacola Christian College – they kicked me out 3 weeks before my graduation, then gave me my degree a year later – though for years I said something like, “I went to a small private college in Florida when asked…) there were thousands of sexually repressed young men who “fapped” all the time. It was referred to by those who dared acknowledge it’s existence (though never by it’s actual name – I have a memory I’d love to erase of Gregg Mutch the college president preaching a sermon to “just the guys” about, and I am not kidding here, true story, “stroking the snake of pornea”). Those progressive enough to own that sometimes 19 year old men who are not allowed to get within 6 inches of a girl (broke that one a few
hundred not sure how many times..) sometimes might give into the lustful thoughts constantly on their mind and “fap” also used the most powerful tool in the fundamentalist arsenal to fight it – guilt.
Nothing like some good, old-fashioned, unadulterated guilt to make someone go forward and confess to someone else that you had “thoughts” and sometimes even “lustful thoughts.” It was unhealthy and made sex dirty.
We were told it was bad, bad, bad and then, once married, its on like Donkey Kong. Cause that’s not weird and backward.
Understand. I have, as a chaplain, experienced the dark side of porn addiction. It is very painful and what it does to families is a plague.
What is amazing about this article is that this group approaches the idea of purity for their own health. It is people who come to some kind of awareness that their tastes and pleasures are not healthy and they want purity. And they seem to be doing it without guilt!
More power to you.
This article was encouraging to me. Whether we approach a healthy view of sex from a religious worldview or not, less porn use is better for the human race.
Update: here’s the website: http://www.nofap.in
Also: your brain on porn – quite good
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Thanks for sharing this! My soul nods in agreement to these lines, ” Nothing like some good, old-fashioned, unadulterated guilt to make someone go forward and confess to someone else that you had “thoughts” and sometimes even “lustful thoughts.” It was unhealthy and made sex dirty.” Sexuality, sex, and thereof needs to be reclaimed as something beautiful again.